Have not gotten email from her.

The address is sharpchick13 at hotmail dot com (I'm spelling that out so the nasty spammers don't get me).

I have found the ship's passenger list where a Patrick McCauley arrived in New York on 1 Nov 1850 from Liverpool aboard the Isaac Wright. And it looks as if he may have been married before his marriage to Mary E Thoss.

But I'd love to compare notes with you and your mom.