|dee_burris (dee_burris) wrote,|
@ 2011-06-19 10:52 am UTC
|Entry tags:||burris, cycles, family, fathers, history|
For all the Dads out there, I hope this day is one you enjoy.
My Dad is nearly 75. He was 22 years old, when I, his firstborn, arrived.
I like to think we've done some growing up together. I know the last 20 years is probably where we've made the most progress.
Although Dad's story is uniquely his own, the older I get, the more I marvel at watching the cycles play out in my family, largely due to Dad.
He was the only son in his family of four kids, and third in birth order. His parents instilled in him a solid work ethic, and he was also gifted with something that's become quite rare these days - common sense.
He knew you had to work hard to get what you wanted and needed in life.
This was one of the first things he worked hard for, and he probably considered it a need at the time.
My Dad made his living with his hands. He was a mason, who created things with his hands out of block and brick. He had his own business. He worked long hours when I was a child, but I remember the times we spent together when he wasn't working.
Quite a bit of it was very close to the place where he lives now - the land of the Burris homeplace in Pope County, Arkansas...the place where his great grandfather carved out both home and business, and where his father was born. It was there that he showed me how to dig earthworms beside his Aunt Emma's chicken coop to use for bait when we fished. He was the one who showed me the low stacked stone walls our ancestors built when clearing the fields for planting.
Dad was nearly 43 years old when he married the love of his life. Together, they have made homes in three places - starting on that land, then moving to Michigan for several years, and coming full circle back to the land.
My folks and I compare notes on our family history. Dad has very matter-of-factly accepted some of the revelations I've made about our family history in the last few years.
He and I both enjoy finding the truth of our history, and recording it so it never has to be secret again.
On this Father's Day, I want Dad to know how much I appreciate the gifts of the love of family and pride of hard work he has given me.
I hope I am honoring him by passing those down.
One of the other Dads in my life is my son.
In the last few years, my son has added two daughters to his family. He is the custodial parent of his oldest daughter.
That blows me away.
My boy has become a man.
I am in awe of how he does it...
And am struck by the similarities in the two Dads - both hard-working fathers, and acutely aware of the importance of family.
My son's own dad died in 2005. They were very close, and my son was devastated. He figured out that it truly does take a village to raise a child, and has embraced his village, which includes his own cousins and their children. All the kids will grow up with rich family connections - a new generation of Burrises with strong family ties.
I'm so proud of him I could bust.
For these very special Dads, I wish for you peace and contentment today.
You've both earned it.