|dee_burris (dee_burris) wrote,|
@ 2011-02-20 06:45 pm UTC
|Entry tags:||burris, callaway, chapin, dunn, hill, mystery, secrets|
I've discovered secrets in my family - on both sides. Some of more gravity than others.
But yeah...I blog about them.
And in some instances, I have questions...why did so-and-so do thus-and-such?
In most cases, I will never know the answer to that question.
Because most of the time, I lack the context in which to frame the answer to this...gee, do I think that was right or wrong?
So I really ought not to judge, huh?
It's also good to remember that they were then just like we are now. Most of them dealt the hand they were played.
Some better than others.
Yes, I write about things that were kept quiet for years - things that I or others have discovered.
From multiply married and murderous Chapins, to Burrises with multiple families or the mid-19th century bad boy Callaway who died so young and had a mysterious wife named Mary, my family tree provides me with countless opportunities to mutter, well, would ya look at that?
My newest curiosity is over a mystery Burris child, whom I would not be at all surprised to find was another of James Littleton Burris' sons.
The discovery of the Mountain Meadows massacre was probably the most shocking surprise I had one Saturday morning in my slippers, with coffee and cigarette...
No one in my family for four generations ever mentioned that.
Maybe they were just trying to forget.
Some of the family secrets and mysteries are having an effect on lives today.
I know firsthand of multiple individuals who have questions about true parentage. The people about whom they have questions have been dead for decades - in one case, for over a century.
If there's information out there to help them establish *who they are* - their identity - then, I won't be keeping secrets about my family, and hindering that.
I won't attempt to draw some moral conclusion about my ancestors without knowing the context of their situation. Did James and Adeline have an "understanding" that they didn't blab to everyone else because it was none of their business?
They could have. I don't know.
But I also don't know that they didn't. That's not the point.
The point is - someone out there needs the facts in order to find out who they are.
Good enough for me.